Whose responsibility is it, Husband or Wife?

I decided to put this up after engaging in a serious argument with a senior colleague at work.
The argument was based on whether after a man has purchase foodstuffs at home for the month, is it his responsibility to still drop money for other things in the house like "we want to cook soup, we want to fill gas, etc"?

This colleague of mine argued vehemently that the man needs not to drop any more money for any other stuffs in the house simply because he has make provisions for the major aspect of the household needs.
He insisted that the woman needs to use her money to do the cooking and some other stuffs in the house provided that they are both working class.
He is insisting that in as much as the woman is working, then it is her sole responsibility to do the cooking from her own purse.

He gave a scenario of a man who has a wife and the wife is working and same as the husband, the wife collects salary and at the same time she still receives 50k monthly allowance from the husband. This allowance is not part of the money meant for the monthly foodstuffs.
He then said, if anything is needed in the house, the woman still waits for the husband to come have it settled.
I responded saying, this actually depends on the level of mutual agreement between them, because i don't expect such to happen if there is no form of misunderstanding between them.

If after receiving salary from work and monthly allowance  from the husband and you still can't take care of minor things in the house, then something is wrong somewhere.

From my own point of view, husband and wife are meant to help each other in the best and most convenient manner for each other. It is the sole responsibility of the man to make provisions for the household needs irrespective of whether the woman is working or not.
But as a reasonable woman who is not daft, she will not wait for the husband  before she does some things around the house with her private money even without the knowledge of the man.

It is even biblical and it is supported in the Qu'ran that the man is meant to provide the basic needs of the family and the woman is just made as an assistant to him in order to make life easier.
I'm not trying to say the woman should now feel that they don't need to make contributions to the growth of the family. They actually needs to play their part and be supportive to their family.

I know of a family in which the wife is the breadwinner of the family after the husband couldn't continue to work when he had an accident. Husband and wife are made to support each other in every possible way in order to make life comfortable for themselves.

To those woman who actually thinks they need to depend on their man to make provisions for everything, this is not right, it is not every time that your man is  financially buoyant and you need to understand this.
This is the main reason why I'm not in support of the full housewife mentality.
Some women are so insensitive that  they need to wait for their man to make provision for some things before getting them done.
Imagine cooking in the kitchen and the cooking gas got finished, you had to place a call to your husband who is at work that gas has finished whereas you have the money to go and refill the gas without him knowing.
All these needs to be checked in order to grow ourself and our family and make things better for ourselves.

I'm not saying all this because I'm a man but because I felt some of those things needs to be checkmated and put in the right order.

AJUMOKO is my name and I'm SHARING MY VIEW



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